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'He didn't react when guys misbehaved with me'
September 26, 2008

Are you hesitant about taking an Internet/ phone friendship further?

Do you know how to interpret signals from the opposite sex effectively?

On September 25, Love Guru helped readers with these and several other problems. For those of you who missed it, here's the transcript.

Love Guru says, Hi there folks! Welcome back to the Love Guru chat! Let's get started!

sudha asked, dear LG..i am writing to you with lots of hope. i believe you can guide me now. I am in love with a guy. He has a temper problem. I mean he does not loose his temper at all. Once we were on a date, a few guys passed lewd comments, but he did not react at all. Instead, he started pacifying me. We have been in relationship for over 4 years, but he has not even held my hand for a while, forgetting kissing or sumthing else. Sometimes, i really doubt his virility. what to do ? Should i snap all the relations with this guy and go ahead with someone else. plzzzzz help

Love Guru answers, Hmmm. That does sound odd. Have you tried talking to him about it? Tell him that normal couples enjoy physical intimacy, so why does he shy away from it? Also, I wouldn't consider what he did on the date entirely as his fault. If there were a few guys and just the two of you, things might have gotten out of hand if either of you had reacted on the spot. Don't snap the relations off -- talk it out and tell him you want the truth. Then make a decision.

AS asked, Hello Guru, I am an IT guy from UK and love a girl who is CA by proff. I intend to marry her, but the issue here is i am 30yrs old and she is 35, but the world doesnt seems to agree for the basic fact she is elder to me. Pls suggest as we both have no problems as our dreams, thoughts and mental compatibility is same. I am confused. Pls help

Love Guru answers, To hell with what narrow-minded fools think! You both are happy and it's not a huge gap at all. In fact, they say a five year gap is ideal when it comes to older guys and younger women, so why not the other way around? Don't be confused -- if you both are happy, go for it 100 percent!

varun asked, i love a girl very much but she hesitate when we are together. can u give me some advice

Love Guru answers, Speak to her and clear her doubts, Varun. Be gentle and explanatory, she will stop being so hesitant.

cheeky asked, hi ,i am engaged t months back now my fiance is always asking me for going physical,which i dont like.when i say no he stop talking me.now it giving me horrible time.my parents don,t want me to meet him alone ,now i am afraiad of meeting him.what should i do.should i tell about him to my parents..

Love Guru answers, What's the hurry? If you're not comfortable, don't give in. Simply use your parents as an excuse -- say they won't allow you out alone with him and you won't lie to them. At the same time, let me reassure you that when you're in a relationship, it is normal to want both emotional and physical intimacy with your partner. But he shouldn't try to force you into it.

biswas asked, i am resident of delhi. i have a widow sister-in-law. i used to visit her residence more or less daily. she is residing near to my house. she is house wife and is getting pension and is having a five years daughter. I am in love with her but she is not respondign to me and she has developed her relations with one of his neighbour who is unmaried. kindly help me. its urgent.

Love Guru answers, Look, Biswas, you can't force her to fall for you. If she likes the neighbour and he likes her, there is nothing you can do about it. So stop trying to force your attentions on her. Even if she is your sister-in-law, she doesn't owe you anything by way of relations.

vineet asked, Hi! I had a very good girl friend but due to what sort of reason she went far away from me ??? And the reason for this is not in reach of me; also I think that one of her close friend made a crac between us because of jealousy

Love Guru answers, It's up to you then, to find out what it was the friend told her and clear the air. When everything comes out in the open and is frankly discussed, it will resolve the problem.

Also see: 'After having sex I now find her boring'

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