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'Marriage is in shambles without love or sex'
September 12, 2008

Has your partner of many years suddenly left you without offering an explanation?

Are you trying to express your feelings to the one you love without damaging your friendship?

On September 11, Love Guru helped readers with these and several other problems. For those of you who missed it, here's the transcript.

Love Guru says, Hi there, everyone! Welcome to the Love Guru chat! Let's get started with your queries.

sunil asked, hello love guru i am a married man and i am very confused with the behaviour of my wife. Every two or three days after she always complaint. what should i do?

Love Guru answers, Hey Sunil. I think your wife's complaining has become a habit. So you need to tell her that it upsets you and you wish to address any issues she may have in a discussion, rather than finger-pointing every few days. And if you both disagree on something, compromise and give in to the other occasionally.

qwe asked, a girl who happens to be my friend doesnot want to meet me any more.....i m indian she is european.... what should i do?

Love Guru answers, Well, you need to ask her what he problem is and why she doesn't want to meet you. Have you been trying for her or making her uncomfortable in any way? If you ave, I'd suggest you stop doing so immediately and promise to remain just friends. If something else is the issue, address that too. But ultimately, it's her decision. There's only so much you can do.

sivaudhanti asked, hello love guru, Please reply. I am very jittery that i might be infected by STD(Sexually transmitted disease). it was first and last time of my life when i had sex with pros. i did every damm thing there including sliva transfer. Now i m scared i might be infected. please suggest what r the symptoms of this. can we nip the evil in the bud. Please do reply.

Love Guru answers, Well, I must say it was rather foolish of you to get so carried away and risk your health. But now that the deed's been done, I would suggest you visit a clinic for a complete check-up to give you the all-clear. Don't worry about anybody knowing wat you were there for, such medical treatment is always strictly confidential.

fool asked, hi..he broke up bcos of his parents..i m disable..what i do..i cant overcome stress..

Love Guru answers, I'm very sorry to hear that. But my dear, you need to overcome this -- disabled or not, everyone suffers heartbreak at some point in their lives. If you feel like the stress is swallowing you up, visit a counsellor who will be able to hear your story and address your needs accordingly.

steve asked, Hi LG, I used to work in a call center and few days ago I left it. But there was a girl who always stared at me. She was in the day shift where I was in the evening. She is good looking and have good nature . She left the job too. I got her phone number from the receptionist who sits at the front office and we both still have good communication with that receptionist. I asked for help in this matter with the receptionist and she agreed to help me at some extend. Now the problem is, like other guys I may have called her talked to her, But according to me some where my mind says that it may give a wrong impression about me as she donít know me despite the fact that I have a doubt of her communicating with me through eyes. But its just a doubt not assurance. What I should do? How I should do? I have very kind and pure approach towards that girl.Give me a solid wit.

Love Guru answers, Congratulations, Steve! You're one of very few people who has the common sense not to approach strangers outright with declarations of love! I can't tell you how many times I've had to address the same issue because someone got carried away and then rejected. You shouldn't call her on the phone. But you can get a common friend to introduce you, like your receptionist friend or anyone else who may know her personally. Go with her for a coffee or something and have her invite this girl along. When you get to know her, trade phone numbers. That's the right way to proceed.

Nick asked, I want to forget my past love beacuse i am in love with another girl who is really good. what to do i am not able to forget my past

Love Guru answers, If you're already in love again, Steve, what exactly is it that you want to forget? Obviously your memories of the past haven't stopped you from falling for your present girlfriend. The past is in the past and while you can't change it, you can stop paying attention to it.

Illustrations: Uttam Ghosh

(Advice from the Love Guru does not necessarily reflect the opinions of and should not be considered in the capacity of professional counselling.)

Also see: 'She's used black magic to make me love her'

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