The credit crunch has not only affected world's economy but has also left stains on couples' relationships. Now, a leading expert has
provided some tips to help couples get through the bumpy situation.
"The more couples spend and lose in the stock market, the more they fight. The
bickering can put a huge strain on a marriage. Stress and anxiety can erode trust
between partners, especially if one misunderstands why the other is acting distant
or distracted," said Mary Jo Rapini, a psychotherapist with The Methodist Hospital
in Houston.
She said that couples should make it a point to remember that money is symbolic. In
men, it represents strength, power and self worth. For women, money is more of a
sense of security and a feeling of being loved when their husbands provide for the
household.
In her opinion, the key to getting through this crisis is to realize that the financial problems are not going to vanish in the flick of a second and to communicate your fears.
Rapini said if you're too angry to talk, write a note, and talk later. Keeping
feelings inside only harbors resentment in the long run, and in many cases, leads to
cheating and/or divorce.
Rapini suggests some ways couples can get through a bumpy economy:
- Don't panic -- If you take your money out now there will be penalties. Consider the long term view.
- Cut family expenses -- Sit down with your spouse and find three expenses you can cut
back on. This will end up making your bond stronger.
- Eat at home/ Exercise together -- Eating at home costs less and is healthier. Take a
bike ride or walk with your spouse and talk. This is a great way to promote
togetherness.
- Spend time in meditation or prayer -- Just 10 minutes a day can do wonders for your
psyche.
- Set small realistic goals -- Take a few hundred rupees from each of your paychecks and start putting away a little money now for a summer vacation.
- Entertain at home -- Having friends over, as opposed to going out to a restaurant or
club, is much cheaper and, most of the time, more fun. You can relax, talk and share
ideas of how to get out of this financial mess.
"Most healing happens when people work together. Reach out to your spouse and share
your feelings with them during this difficult time. It will make it less scary and
will help you to begin to see the light at the end of the tunnel," said Rapini.
Text: ANI | Photograph: Gettyimages
Also see: How to make your marriage work
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