changey asked, dear LG, one of my friends is madly in luv with a girl. Both of them are of same caste and of same region (Maharashtra), so this has made things a bit easier for them. However, my friend is the youngest in his family. All his brothers and sisters are married, with children. His nephews/neices affectionately call him Kaka. However, my friend fears whether his girlfriend will be able to accept his joint family. She has earlier said that she does not like joint families. In short, will she be (the would-be-Kaki) able to give luv and affection to the team of nephews/neices ????

Love Guru answers, Look, not everyone is cut out to live in joint families. Your friend loves it, his girlfriend might not -- she may have been brought up differently, or might have had a bad experience living in a joint family set-up at some point in her life. Your friend will just have to accept that -- she should certainly try to adjust, but if she finds that she can't and is unhappy, he should be prepared to move out with her.

suman asked, hii.love guru......i love one guy.hes handicapped,i met him thru matrimonial site..we got so closed.both our families agreed for the marriage,hes really gud by heart,gud in every manner,bcoz he handicapped,i went to his place to meet him,but after returning frm there he denied for marriage,dnt know wats d reason,kuch bata bhi nahi....batayiye ami kya karu.......??plsss help me.....i wana marry him....not showing sympathy..but i really like him by heart and wana marry him....plsss guide me.................plssssssss

Love Guru answers, Talk to him. Approach him and tell him that since you love him sincerely, he should be sincere with you. Ask him why he refuses to marry you and tell him that you love him for who he is, not because you feel sorry for him.

lostsoul asked, Hi, I love a girl from my school days . I have expressed this to her in school as well as after my study. She replied that she did not see me in that way, but she continues to talk to talk me even though she knows my intention. I have never loved anyone so dearly.... i wanna know what can i do now PL help me

Love Guru answers, Why shoudn't she talk to you? You're her friend. But you need to understand that she doesn't see you as anything other than that. You cannot force someone to love you or reciprocate your feelings.

rock asked, Hiii..I had a serious problem wid my gf actually she uses internet very frequently...she has a orkut profile as well...she likes to make new frnds ..chat wid them on yahoo...and also give them her mob no..i had told her not to chat and give no...but she gets angry and tell me dat u r doubting my loyalty and integrity...how sud i convince her.

Love Guru answers, Well, she's right that you should trust her, but she's stupid to give her mobile number to and chat with random strangers. Ask her why she feels the need to do that? Doesn't she realise how easily someone can deceive her?

LoveGuruHelp asked, I am in London.I proposed a girl b4 coming here last july.She had a breakoff in sept06.She ws nt sure and sometme say no,smetme she say she need sme mre time,smetime she say she dont wana lose me and smetimes she says she dont wana be in relationshp and will marry.The concern is she was in constanly touch with her ex thru phone.Recently she came to know he is geting married and she is crying all ovr agn.In last 1yr being in london I hve suported her financialy, Emotionaly etc.She say she knows I love her a lot but is scared of relationship.She says if her family allows she also wana marry me.My fmly dont have any issues but if her family say no then i'll be left crying.Her sister who is married is also in london and currently in Delhi for a month. She says she will talk about me with her and she will meet me here b4 i go back in August. Please tell me is she realy serious about me?I love her a lot and dont wana lose her but if her fmly hve any issues thn what will I do.tell what to do

Love Guru answers, Why should her family have an issue? Why don't you just have your parents approach her family? Your proposal may seem more legitimate that way. As for the girl, she doesn't sound too sure of things herself. Is she over that boy? Is she only marrying you on the rebound, because he's marrying someone else? Tell her to be honest with you and to make up her mind properly before going ahead with any of this.

karan asked, I am 28 years old unmaarried guy, My neighbors wife always remains unsatisfied from her husband who is at least 20 years My neighbors wife always remains unsatisfied from her husband who is at least 20 years older, after saying NO for many times I have become physical and she is pregnant first time , she knew it is my child no she ignores me – what should I do ?

Love Guru answers, Karan, you should have known better than to sleep with a married woman. Are you sure she's carrying your child? You can go to court to find out, you know, but in the process it's very likely you'll end her marriage. Approach her when she is alone and demand a DNA test. Tell her if she refuses, you will go to court and her husband will get to know everything. Then depending on the test you can take things further. Who knows, it just may be her husband's, in which case you can thank your lucky stars. If not, whatever happens see to it that you're there for your child, because it's your responsibility.

simplygay asked,  hi, i am attracted to my sister's boyfriend and he is also made a pass at me.. later we slept together and my sis does not know it.. they are going to get married .. shall i continue to have fun with him?

Love Guru answers, 'Continue to have fun with him?' You think it's fun to betray your loved ones in such a brutal manner? It's obvious you have no shame. Stop this at once. And if you're a guy (I'm assuming, since your nickname is 'simplygay') tell her boyfriend to come clean with her that he's gay too, or bisexual. He'll ruin your sister's future -- and you're adding to the mess!