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'I love my maid -- should I leave my wife?'

June 27, 2008
Is your relationship hanging by a thread due to lack of communication?

Has your partner left you because his/ her parents don't approve of you?

In a chat with Get Ahead readers on June 26, the Love Guru addressed many such problems. For those of you who missed it, here's the transcript.


Love Guru says, Welcome to the Love Guru chat, people! Let's get cracking at your relationship problems!


SSS asked, HALLO LG, I HAVE ASKED SAME QUESTION MANY TIME BUT YOU NOT ANSWER YET,,,,, I HAVE RELATION WITH MY MARRIED GIRLFRIEND, SHE IS HAVING TWO CHILDRENS ALSO, BUT FROM LAST TWO MONTHS SHE GOT ANGRY ON ME AND NOT EVEN CALLING ME ALSO... I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO?? PLEASE HELP ME..

Love Guru answers, She is married and has two children. Getting angry with you may just have been an excuse -- who knows, maybe she finally realised what was happening and wanted to get out of the relationship? In any case, it's all for the best. It's been two months already...just let go of this and start dating other women.


baccha asked, i am 35 year old & i m in love with 18 year girl,she is also loving me.she knows i am married..my love is right or wrong towards 18 year girl...plz give good sugesstion how i can handle this

Love Guru answers, It's wrong. She's young and foolish and doesn't understand the implications of getting involved with an older, married man at this point in her life. You know better, so call it off. For heaven's sake, she's half your age!


vikas asked, I am in love with my maid. Should I ditch my wife for her? I am 28 year old and married for last 2 years

Love Guru answers, The point here is not so much that you're in love with your maid -- it's why you're not in love with your wife! It's been only two years and you're considering leaving her? Were you never in love with her in the first place? Then why did you marry her? Also, besides just a physical relationship with your maid, do you share any common interests? Have you ever taken her on a date? Would you have a problem introducing her as your partner to friends and colleagues? Answer all these questions first, my friend -- based on your own thoughts regarding all this, you'll discover what you need to do.


asa asked, I am not unlucky in love but unlucky in life and want to die, can you suggest something on how to die early but naturally?

Love Guru answers, Why the defeatist attitude? Life is a precious gift, my dear -- don't think of it as trivial enough to give up whenever you suffer minor setbacks, because if you change your mind you won't get it back! Be strong, fight to set things straight and be happy, instead of trying to take the coward's way out!


harsh asked, hi love guru i m facing a prb. that i luv a girl since 3 year and want marry with her, but her parents very against intercast marriage wht should i do now i cant leave without her. pls help

Love Guru answers, Have you even spoken to her parents? Why don't you have your parents extend hers a formal proposal? And be prepared if they say no -- is she willing to leave her parents for you? If not, there's really nothing you can do about it.


jiban asked, Sir I am in great problem, Please help. I and my friend both are working in same organisation but in different offices.We shared the same accommodation as both are unmarried.I am at the verge of choosing my life partner. Now He is crying and asking me to remain unmarried for his sake and insisting to live together for whole life. He is telling, he is in deep love with me and can not live without me. we have been staying for last 2 years in the same rented house. Problem is I don't have that much love as he thinks. I like him but want to spend life as I like. Sometimes it is irritating and beyond tolerable. I want to leave him at this instant but my apprehension is he might commit suicide. What I will do now ? Pls help

Love Guru answers, Well, you certainly have the right to live life as you wish, but I hope you've never given him false hopes about any of this. Sit him down and talk to him gently -- tell him that you're not gay even if he is and that you want to be married to a woman. Explain that you can't change your nature, just as he can't change his -- would he be able to marry and live with a woman? Similarly, he can't expect you to live with him and not marry. Tell him to be strong and if you suspect that he might take some drastic measures, call a common friend or one of his relatives to come and live with him for a bit till he gets over this situation -- explain yourself to them so they can be on their guard around him.


Illustrations: Uttam Ghosh

(Advice from the Love Guru does not necessarily reflect the opinions of Rediff.com and should not be considered in the capacity of professional counselling.)
Also read: 'I delayed proposing, now she's marrying someone else'

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